My life of addiction took me to unthinkable places and scorched the depths of my soul until I finally handed it all over, by the grace of God (and a tremendous amount of work), in 2018. In early sobriety I met a sober man and fell in love. And then, almost 2 decades after my first "D-Day", I was faced with a new betrayal in my new relationship. Time stood still in that moment. And I silently prayed, "God, is this a sick joke?" But then an unexpected thought entered and my mind quickly shifted to a new prayer. "God, I vow to not repeat the mistakes of my past. I've come too far to do this all over the same way again. I don't know what to do, but I'm going to do it better. Somehow. Some way. HELP." And so the next chapter of my journey began.

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That journey leads us here today. While I'm oh-so-well acquainted with the messy middle, it's been more fruitful this time around. A little older and a little wiser helped plenty. But even more than that, betrayal trauma (and deceptive sexuality) are on the map today ~ and that meant I was no longer alone. The gift of trauma, betrayal and partner-sensitive professionals changed the game for me and my healing. And it became my own mission to become a part of changing the game for others as well. I'm fiercely passionate about protecting the hearts, minds and bodies of vulnerable betrayed partners. And I believe in the power of speaking hard truths, validating trauma and abuse, witnessing and honoring the horror stories innate in betrayal, and holding women through their pain ~ as they fight their way back into the light and back to themselves, anew.